Ephesians 4:19 "who(those trusting their own feelings and wisdom), being past feeling, have given themselves over to lewdness, to work all uncleanness with greediness.
20 But you have not so learned Christ, 21 if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught by Him, as the truth is in Jesus: 22 that you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts, 23 and be renewed in the spirit of your mind, 24 and that yo...u put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness."
I feel impressed to stop here and overstate an obvious point. Life is growth and change. This is unavoidable. Every day we are incrementally growing more like Jesus or less like Jesus. Few are the days when we have huge aha moments or spiritual growth spurts. This is why if we are careless we can be growing less like Him every day and not even notice. This is what is happening to society at large. Our love is dying. Our tolerance is dying. Our patience is dying. Matthew 24:10-12 describes how as we approach the end of time on this planet the love of most (in the church) will grow cold.
It's this general slow decline of morality that can turn something as degrading as 50 Shades of Grey into popular entertainment. A phenomenon that would have been impossible perhaps as recently as ten years ago.
How will we avoid this death of love, compassion, respect, etc...? There is only one way: A constant connection with Jesus. I want to end with this point:
20 "But you have not so learned Christ, 21 if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught by Him, as the truth is in Jesus."
Paul is writing to believers. People who profess to be followers of Jesus yet he implies quite openly that it is possible they are not learning about Him at all. There are two ways that it is possible to be a Christian and not be learning about Jesus and becoming like Him as a result.
The first possibility is that you belong to a church that doesn't teach Jesus. They may teach rules, they may teach self help, they may teach philosophy but they don't teach Jesus. As a result you're learning human wisdom cloaked as Christianity.
The second possibility is that you are ever learning but never coming to a knowledge of the truth. How is this possible? By never applying what you learn. It's like learning that drinking water is really healthy and promoting it to others and wearing "drink your water today" t-shirts but never drinking water yourself.
"If you know these things, blessed are you if you do them." - Jesus (John 13:17)
Search for a body of believers that is actually pursuing Jesus and then ask Him to help you follow His lead. Any other path will ultimately lead to unhappiness and death.
Jesus. He loves you and He'll never steer you wrong.