6:15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! 16 Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” 17 But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.
18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. 19 Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? 20 For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.
Sex is something that gets talked about and portrayed in movies and culture a lot yet is never thought about or spoken of meaningfully or deeply. For me it is one of the greatest proofs that evolution is a false theory and that God is love and the basis of all that He created is love. Sex as it exists is unnecessary. If we came into existence by random chance mutations over billions of years I can't see sex becoming what it is. Why would love, emotion, attachment and all the other strong feelings and complexities exist if it was a simple mechanical issue of reproduction. In fact love itself is the greatest argument against survival of the fittest. There is no need for love in such a system. Bonding is weakness.
And why would having multiple partners be so physically and emotionally damaging if we are just chance animals trying to show more strength and dominance than others?
The issues around sexuality are deep and wide and go far beyond the mechanics of it even though the physical science of sex and procreation is mind boggling all by itself.
The Bible hints that when two people come together physically something happens inside. Something that can't be measured, at least not with any quantifiable measurements we yet know of.
Several years ago I moderated a discussion on sexuality and bonding. There is a hormone (oxytocin) released by the body that many experts refer to as the bonding hormone. It is released in very small amounts through various human interactions like a prolonged hug or some gesture that builds deep trust. However there are only three things that produce it in large quantities. A woman's body is literally flooded with oxytocin when she gives birth. Think about it. For 9 months a growing baby invades her body, often causing sickness, erratic emotions, cravings, and later on the pregnancy great discomfort. Then to top it all off the birth process is the greatest pain she will likely ever experience yet as soon as the baby is born all she wants to do is hold it. She feels an attachment to this new little person she has never felt for anyone. A huge factor in that is the hormone oxytocin. Breast feeding also releases the hormone in both mother and baby. The only other human activity that produces comparable levels of oxytocin is sexual orgasm. The bonding hormone. Mothers enjoy a bond with their children that fathers can't compete with, especially in the early years. That is why when God wants to describe His bond to us He uses the comparison to a nursing mother. He asks "Will a nursing mother forget her child? She might (highly unlikely but possible) but I will never forget you. See I have inscribed you on the palms of My hands."
So I described how oxytocin works and what it does to this group. I showed the statistics of the divorce rate for couples who were both virgins at their wedding (less than 5%). I explained using tape how the first bond is always the strongest and how each successive bonding is less and eventually tape will not stick at all. In other words the physical enjoyable side of sex will always exist but the bonding part will diminish if done with multiple partners. We are literally wired for monogamy until we become so broken through abuse of our sexuality that we can no longer bond with anyone.
In the group were several people well advanced in years. Some married several time. Some divorced. Let's just say considerable life experience. So to seal the reality of oxytocin and the powerful bonding effect it has I shared how people it multiple sexual partners can come to the point that they literally can forget some of those encounters. They may not even remember his or her name. Then I said there is one encounter you will never forget. Your first love and your first sexual encounter is etched as if in granite. I wish the moment had been captured on film. All around the room people had left the moment and were transported back many years, even many decades. It was one of the most intense moments of self-awareness I have ever been a part of. Sex is sacred. The two become one. If the two do not remain one it cannot change the reality that part of him remains with her and part of her remains with him forever. Many affairs that occur are with a previous sexual partner. Bonds are formed that do not die easily if at all.
When we follow God's design of one plus one for life, a sacred union never entered by or shared with any other, it forms a bond that lasts.
The ancient Jewish temple was only to be entered by the priest. The temple of a woman's body is to be entered only by her husband. Sex is literally sacred. God designed it to be so. Science can't even yet fully explain all the intricacies of it but the mess left in the wake of defiling our sexuality is evidence enough that we trampled on holy ground.
Thankfully our God is not only a Creator but a Restorer.